Keeping him as Comfortable as Possible

Unfortunately, Conan is not eating much and because of this it has become apparent that further cancer treatments are not possible. He will still be offered food and encouraged, but per his wishes, food will not be forced on him.

One of the chaplains we spoke to a few weeks ago said we often try to protect the ones we love. She was actually speaking about Henry and what we could do to help him in the midst of all we are going through. But Gretta and I both thought about Conan and how he was trying to protect those he loved.

In August, just a week or two after the new tumors were discovered, Conan told a friend that this was probably the beginning of the end. He didn't discuss this with others, but he was trying to protect those he loved.

Since the EVT surgery, he seemed afraid to eat, as if he didn't want to vomit again. Gretta said at other times it seemed like he ate only to make her happy.

Now everyone will be doing what they can to keep him comfortable. Short visits with one or two people are still good, but he may or may not be very responsive.